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The behaviour they avoid, and how they make you feel

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I’ve had my fair share of unsuccessful relationships.

Sometimes I was the one to blame. Sometimes they were. More often than not, it was a mixture of both — our unhealthy behaviour merged into one big disaster of miscommunication and feelings of resentment.

Sounds familiar?

Over the years, I’ve sorted through lots of information on relationships and psychological behaviour, and I analysed this in the context of my own experiences. …

Here’s to the glorious act of mansplaining

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Women talk too much.

That’s what some men say these days, isn’t it? Women talk and talk and don’t know when to stop.

Well, as true as that may be sometimes, it can also just be a huge male moment of projecting without self-awareness. Contrary to popular belief, men can talk too much as well — especially when it comes to womanhood.

It seems that men, particularly men in power, always have something to say about women’s lives. How to lead our lives, how to look while doing so, how to act and how to obey the law (which can…

The science of overriding the lazy autopilot in your brain and following your passion

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Most days, I have to force myself to sit down and write.

As someone who’s trying to make it as a freelance writer, I don’t wake up and think, “Oh, I’m so excited to write four thousand words today!”

Often, my thought process is more like, “I want to stay in bed and read books until I disintegrate into my bedsheets. But alas, work awaits.”

Okay, I don’t ever actually think alas, that would be just plain weird for my Gen-Z brain. But the rest still stands. When I was little, I used to write for fun. …

I stopped before it backfired

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Here’s the thing about threesomes.

They sound exciting. Exhilarating. They sound like something that will set you free, that will strengthen your relationship, that will turn you into this free open-minded spirit who gets the difference between love and pleasure.

And for some people, that’s exactly what happens. But often… things can go wrong. Especially if you’ve had trust issues in the past.

When I met my boyfriend, I told him I was open to the idea of a threesome. We sometimes joked about it, discussed the idea, pondered about what it’d be like.

But we never took any actual…

Women aren’t the problem here.

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I have daddy issues.

Just like dozens of other people I know personally, not to mention thousands of strangers. Women and men both struggle with daddy issues in all parts of the world, either subconsciously or on some active conscious level.

Not all women. Not all men. But a considerable amount of people have complicated relationships with their fathers judging by the daddy issues trend that’s been floating around in the social sphere in the past few years.

A girl with daddy issues is a running joke at this point. It’s how people explain all sorts of behaviour — clinginess…

The way you use the platform is tied to your sense of self-worth

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A little over a week ago, I decided to give Upwork a proper try.

Yeah, that’s right. I looked this hellish dungeon of writing for scraps directly in the eye and I said, “Not today, a strange man from the other side of the world who thinks I’d love nothing else than write your whole book for 10 dollars. Not today.”

Because today, I’m choosing myself. Upwork is there to offer me opportunities — and I will only take those that are worth my attention.

It’s safe to say my first week on Upwork has been quite a success, actually…

My rage defined me — until I let it die and embraced forgiveness

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A sudden surge of anger deafened me as I ran at my father.

Everything vanished from the world — every person I’d ever loved, every happy emotion I’d ever felt, every beautiful memory I’d cherished. It was me, my dad, and my fury surrounded by a home shattered. It was adrenaline. It was a death of a life I knew. It was a thunderbolt.

As I hit him and he threw me to the floor, as he kicked me in the hip where I still felt phantom pain weeks later, as my mother and sister shouted for him to stop…

Please, don’t do this and think it’s okay.

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I have a confession to make.

After a whole day of working, running errands and being a fully functioning human in general, there’s nothing I love more than sitting down and watching a bunch of young British people kiss and argue on Love Island.

Not only does the reality TV show help me unwind while enjoying all the drama, but it also offers an interesting insight into what kinds of people go on such a show, how they represent the general public, and how they act in relationship-related situations.

It’s some great material to analyse.

It’s safe to say these…

If women want to change the patriarchy, they have to become better mothers

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In today’s world, men can be both villains and victims of the patriarchy — although we refuse to admit that sometimes.

Personally, feminism isn’t only about fighting for women’s rights. It’s about making all areas of life equal for all genders. And men’s issues ultimately count toward that, too.

So let’s talk about some of them.

A part of striving to live in a better world lies in raising our children in a way that will eventually make this planet a better place. …

A hint: it’s not the permission to cheat

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The problem with monogamy is that it can easily make you too territorial if you’re not careful.

The longer you spend having sex with your partner, the less novel the sex gets; and yet, the more familiar it feels, the more possessive your ego can grow. Sex is the only thing you two agree to share together, with nobody else involved.

He belongs to me, I used to think about my ex-boyfriend when we still dated. I own his sexuality because I’m the only person he shares himself in this way with.

To a certain degree, this total exclusivity feels…

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